Creating Your Dream Life - If You Don't Do Anything, You Won't Get Anywhere

Life is not a passive activity, and hoping for the best isn't going to be enough. First, make sure that you are paying attention to the opportunities that already exist around you. If you have tunnel vision or wear blinders, you miss the activities going on around you. Focus, while remaining open.

If you could focus all your energies on what is important to your life, your goals, your mission, you could move beyond the anger, the pain, the hate and rise above it all creating a life of abundance, hence - your dream life.

Something you can do immediately is listen to the conversations taking place around you. Everyday you have two choices:

1) Inertia: the tendency of bodies at rest to stay at rest
2) Momentum: the tendency of bodies in motion to remain in motion.

Which one will you need to create your ideal life? If you're having a tough time getting in gear, enlist the help of a friend or a life coach. When you have someone cheering you on, sometimes kicking you off the couch or out of a slump, it's impossible to ignore. Think of how wonderful it would be to have your own personal cheerleader pushing you, motivating you! Each step you take to make things happen in your life is a big one. What if you heard applause every time you took a step?

Make your network work for you. Call at least one person every day. Before you decide that you're too busy, this only needs to take five minutes or so. If you're pressed for time, simply tell the other party at the beginning of the call you only have a few minutes. Share stories and listen. Contacting someone every day will create the habit of telling your story, asking for what you want, connecting with others and keep up your momentum. As this gets easier for you, increase the number of contacts you make each day. You never know who knows someone, who knows someone: you get the idea.

Be aware of your communications with others and yourself. Talk the talk of a winner. You will be more positive to be around and you'll attract others.

When having an unpleasant experience, look for your own responsibility. Questions to consider:

- Did you take something personally?
- Are you trying to interpret something that doesn't need interpreting?
- Could you have responded in a different way?
- Were you acting in a manner consistent with serving your greater purpose?
- What, if anything, could you do to avoid a similar experience in the future?

There are always opportunities for you to analyze your behaviors. You are unable to control others, their reactions and their inactions. You don't control situations, but you don't have to let situations control you either. You control your reaction to people and your environment. You can choose to see a situation or experience any way you wish.

Knowing you can only control your actions and reactions, when someone else does something, is it your business? Sure, their behavior can have an impact on you, it will have whatever impact you decide.

If you knew you only had one day left of your life, at your current age, in your current situation, what would you do with that last day? Live every day like it's the only one you have. Because truly, what more do you have than what you experience in this moment? Your attitude colors how you experience all your moments. Start living in the moment: you'll be amazed at how free you will feel.

Let's say one of your goals is to attract a loving relationship. Are you making an attempt to meet people? Engage in activities that you enjoy or find stimulating. Say hello to strangers. Meet people who like the things that you enjoy. Use creative visualization to create your perfect partner into being. Of course, Mr. or Ms. Right isn't going to materialize on your front doorstep, you'll have to do some work. You can't find them when you're overcome with loneliness, sitting on your couch, complaining into the phone to your friends, I'll never meet the ONE. Not unless he or she is dropping by random houses, knocking on doors, looking for you. And unless you're a character in a television series or movie, it's probably not going to happen like that.

Make a list of all the things you need to DO, actions you need to take, to have your ideal life. Include the date you will DO the action by. The rule is, you MUST do at least ONE thing EVERY day. Start creating your new dream life, now.

(Your list should be a long one! And you will check off one thing each day! This list can change, be added to, modified in ways to create your dream life.)

About Dream Board Publications LLC Dream Board Publications LLC, is a publisher of entertainment, inspirational and self help genre books worldwide. Based in Atlanta, GA, as well as on the Internet at http://www.dreamboardpublications.com

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11 Things You Can Do Today to Begin Creating Your Dream Life

Many times people are drawn to the negative, so the pursuit of creating your dream life can be hard work. You need to train your brain to think positive again, like when you were a kid. You have to learn how to rid your mind of all the negative thoughts and emotions learned over the years and just remember the lessons learned.

It may seem simple enough to think positive, but when you are used to thinking negatively, it can be very hard. You will subconsciously be inclined to go to the negative if it connects you and another person. You have to make a conscious effort to fight off the negative thoughts and only focus on the positive ones. Sometimes it can feel and be like a battle, but you can do it if you embrace the idea and thoughts that can come with it. On the flip side, by being a positive thinker, your issues with fighting off negative thoughts will become easier since they eventually cease to exist or become a very small part of your thoughts. That's because your positive thoughts are going to be overriding any negative ones. Just like fears, they are created in our mind - most of the time never coming true. You will have the necessary will power to stop negative thoughts in their tracks. You just have to learn to focus your energy on the right things in your life.

Look at the most successful people around you, who are they friends with, what do they do in their free time? (How do you personally define success? Hmmm...) Do they take time out of their day to spend with their friends and family or do they sit in front of the TV or computer like a programmed robot by themselves? You have to fully immerse yourself into positive thinking and creating your dream life for anything to happen. You have to surround yourself with positive influences. You have to be very focused on the positive and be committed to pushing away the negative thoughts and beliefs. There are always things beyond your control, however it is how you react to these things that create your future.

Here are some things you can do right now to start creating your dream life and make positive thinking easier:

1. Focus on positive thinking and positive things. This includes reading books that are upbeat like "21 Days To Creating Your Dream Life", "The Power of Positive Thinking", "How to Stop Worrying and Start Living" or "Awaken the Giant Within". The list goes on and on. Sometimes you just need to learn a new way to look at things.

2. Visualize. You have to imagine yourself being positive, acting positive and thinking positive, doing positive things for others. You should picture positive things in your mind and allow yourself to think and feel these positive situations. Catch yourself when you focus on the negatives and stop yourself. Start thinking and focusing on the good versus the bad. Not everything is in our control, but how you approach everyday situations can determine how you perceive them.

3. Use positive words in your everyday conversations. Avoid negative ones as much as possible. Watch how your friends and coworkers interactions with you change. Try and make your conversations and thoughts positive. When you are thinking to yourself, use positive words - get rid of the negative self-talk. Most people like to be around other positive people.

4. Stop making excuses. What holds many people back from being a success? Excuses. Hold yourself accountable for accomplishments, learn from past failures - but don't dwell on them or make excuses for them. Live in the moment, not in the past.

5. Give time, money, or knowledge to help others. When you give in any form, you will feel better about yourself. If helping at a shelter, a retirement home, a hospital, you may learn how lucky or wealthy you already are, be it in the form of friends or financially. Surprisingly, you will likely learn new things with everything you do.

6. Be aware of negative thoughts. When you have a negative thought, you have to recognize it and replace right away with a positive thought. Think about where the negative thought came from, why you had it and how to deal with it. Being a positive thinker does not mean you can avoid all negative things. It means you learn how to constructively deal with negativity and how not to allow negativity to influence you.

7. Be persistent with positive thinking. Positive thinking should become second nature to you. You want to train your subconscious to be positive. Don't let a day go by without making sure you are thinking positive. Put your energy into focusing on what's right, not what's wrong. Stop yourself when thinking negatively. Be thankful for what you have today. Health, love, shelter, family, friends...

8. Identify the fears that cause you to think negatively. Most of the time, when a fear is confronted, it ends up not being as intimidating as it first seemed. Fear is simply your minds lack of being able to see that bad things will not always happen. When you learn to let go of fear and trust in yourself you will see it is much easier to stay positive.

9. Watch your emotions. Try to stick to feelings of happiness, so that success and strength dominates you internally. Try to avoid feelings of weakness, fear and self-doubt.

10. Do things that make you happy. Watch happy movies, read happy books and listen to happy upbeat music. Surround yourself with happiness and you will begin to react to that.

11. Smile. Use your smile to project your positive attitude. Let your smile speak for you. If you do nothing else, then put a smile on your face. It will do a world of wonder.

Make positive thinking part of your lifestyle. It is just like changing anything else in your life. Let's say you're giving up smoking. You're not going to tempt yourself with carrying around a pack of cigars or cigarettes or really want to be around people who smoke. Will you? The same can be said for positive people.

Make sure you're ready for such a big change in your life. Ask yourself some important questions such as: Are you ready to be a positive thinker? Are you ready to let go of the negative thoughts and patterns? Are you ready to become and think more optimistically? Can you let go of the things that don't really matter and look on the bright side of things? Are you willing to work towards becoming a positive thinker? Being true to yourself, you have to answer yes to these questions to be able to become a positive thinker enabling you to create your dream life.

Stephen Mark is a serial entrepreneur, a motivator, a visionary, a philanthropist, and a facilitator.

Author of 21 Days To Creating Your Dream Life. For more details, you can visit http://www.StephenMark.com

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